Saturday, 20 October 2012
Rudeness....a virtue?
The other day I was in a restaurant where I observed a girl who came and joined her mother who had been waiting for the girl as she went to get some coupons. The girl then narrated to her mother how she actually had to fight with the guy giving coupons over some misunderstanding and she even scolded that guy when finally she was able to get the coupons. The mother had a proud feeling and a smile on her face that her daughter had so skillfully dealt with the situation. I would have felt the same had I been at the mother's place.
"Its good to be bad". This is the most practically applied phrase these days. Its the joy and sense of achievement we feel when we dominate someone and get things done our way no matter how harsh we are on others. Its the results that matters.But I find it really hard to accept when nobody is actually bothered about one's feelings.
Being the youngest child in the family, one gets loved the most. One is pampered and kept safe from all the worldly evils. But why is it that at some point of time, one has to learn the art of rudeness? Why are the ones with a rough attitude admired the most. And I am no exception to that list of admirers who admire the rough dominant personalities. They do have an aura around them. Being that so, yet, I have a firm belief in the power of politeness.
The same words when given a slight bend of politeness could achieve wonders. I am being quite hypocritical here, as though I would love to learn the stern style of formal communication that actually saves you from being a victim yet I would want to win the world with politeness.And make this virtue regain its charm.
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The society through time has embraced aggressive or even abrasive tendencies. By being gentle and polite, Barack Obama lost the first round of US presidential debates after Romney came out aggressively in what was obviously rudeness directed at the subdued president. Obama was aggressive in the second round and he was voted the winner of round-two. A keen look at history tells a different story!. Those who called for polite approaches like Mahatma Gadhi, Martin Luther King Jr, Mother Theresa and more have legacies unmatched. Rudeness is visible here and now! It may look dominant but is temporal in meaningful impact. Politeness is not synonymous to laid-back and lazy but a virtue which cultivates establishment of positivism in the way we relate. It’s tough when a culture prefers the opposite!
ReplyDeleteGeoffrey, the insight you've given to this topic is truly commendable. I must appreciate the examples you've narrated to elaborate your point. There is certainly a lot that I could learn from you as well. So do keep posting your comments. These comments are very precious to me.
DeleteAll this is how you pursue and view things happening around you. Moreover, all this is the outcome of so called ‘professionalism’, ‘competition’ and the big giant ‘modernization’.
DeleteThe fact of the matter is truth is never pleasing. Therefore, friends ‘Good morning’!!! All those days are over, now is the era wherein you have to follow the ideals of “Bhagat Singh” instead of Mahatma Gandhi.